This video explores the psychological and emotional impact of rejection, explaining why it feels painful and how it relates to our social well-being. It offers insights into coping strategies by evaluating the significance of the rejection and understanding one's self-perception.

Rejection hurts. It's incredibly painful to feel like you're not wanted, and we do mean painful. fMRI studies have found that rejection elicits brain activity in multiple neural regions that process physical pain. The language we use to describe rejection mirrors this experience. Researchers recorded over a dozen languages that relate rejection to being hurt, using terms like "crushed" or "broken-hearted." So why does rejection trigger such a strong response, and is there any way to cope with this unique kind of pain? Psychologists often describe rejection as what happens when we perceive that others don't value having social connections with us. This could occur when we're abandoned by a romantic partner, excluded from a group, or outright discriminated against. But it's worth noting that these interpersonal rejections have a social element that distinguishes them from not getting a job. In these experiences, we perceive that the rejecting party undervalues our relationship. While the pain of rejection often increases the more we value a relationship, even rejections by relative strangers can hurt our feelings. This might seem like an overreaction, but just as bodily pain warns us about perceived threats to our physical well-being, hurt feelings warn us about perceived threats to our social well-being. Some behavioral psychologists argue this warning system developed when our prehistoric ancestors lived in small clans and depended on everyone they knew for survival. These humans may have evolved to perceive rejection from anyone as a potential threat to their safety. It's impossible to confirm this kind of evolutionary theory, but wherever this warning system came from, it doesn't include instructions for how to process this intense emotional experience. So the next time you're feeling rejected, try asking yourself these questions. The first thing to consider is your relationship with the person rejecting you. Is this someone who knows you well and whose opinion you hold dear, or is it just a loose acquaintance? If it's the latter, that might help you answer the second question: does this rejection really matter? It can sting when a stranger doesn't laugh at your joke, but it doesn't make sense to react strongly to a rejection with little impact on your life. Of course, brushing off even a minor rejection is easier said than done, since how you perceive yourself also factors into this equation. You likely feel more confident in some circumstances than others, and people tend to be especially sensitive to rejection in situations where they have a low opinion of themselves. So much so, that they even become more likely to misinterpret...