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How to Move On and Find Closure

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How to Move On and Find Closure

This video offers guidance on finding closure after a painful experience, such as the end of a relationship or the loss of a loved one. It provides practical tips on acknowledging and expressing emotions, giving oneself time to heal, and actively forgiving to move forward.

We've dealt with a lot of heavy topics these last few weeks, Wellcasters. For each of those painful experiences, the messages have been the same: you can heal, move on, and be stronger. Your lightning bolt scar can become a symbol of hope to others. But when a relationship ends abruptly or you lose someone that you love, how do you transition from a place of pain to a place of healing? Today, Wellcasters, we're going to give you some tips on capturing that all-elusive golden snitch: closure. **Tip 1:** Acknowledge your feelings and don't run from them. Maybe you feel wronged or misled by someone you trusted, or you've suffered some injustice at the hands of a total stranger. Identify your feelings and give yourself permission to feel them. Get mad if you're mad. Allow yourself to be hurt if you're feeling vulnerable. Embrace your suffering and don't try to reason your way through its causes or fixes. **Tip 2:** Let it out. Bottled emotions are no good for anybody, and now that you've identified your anguish, release it. Try venting to a close friend or scribble in your Wellcast journal to flush yourself of negative energy. Express your positive emotion, too. If your friends are moving away, take a moment to tell them how much you'll miss them. We guarantee that this cathartic exercise will provide you with at least a little sense of relief, and it'll help you get perspective. **Tip 3:** Give yourself time and space. Be patient with yourself. Recognize that, just like with a physical wound, emotional healing is a gradual process. Do other things you love, rather than just focusing on what's lost. Spend time with other people in your life, positive influences. These people will help build you back up. **Tip 4:** Forgive, and we mean actively. You might never receive that apology that you so deserve, but you've got to release that burden that's weighing you down. Start by envisioning a future where you've let go of the tension that this situation caused. Then, tie an action to your forgiveness, whether it's donating painful objects and pictures or writing a private blog post about what happened. Give the situation the formal resolution it never got. So that's it, Wellcasters. These were our tips for getting you a few steps closer to closure. It's time for us here at Wellcast to take a summer hiatus. I know, I know, we've had some great times together this year, but never fear. We'll be back with Season 2 in the fall. Leave us comments below to tell us what you loved from Season 1 and what you want to see next season. Email wellcast@inside.com for more information. In the meantime, we hope that when you need help on an issue in the future, you can find a family member or an adult that you trust. But hey, you can still visit this channel whenever you need us. Well, that's all from me today, Wellcasters.